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I've Lost My Spark!

Category: Libido/Sex Drive  |  Permalink

Published: Thursday, August 20, 2015



You may have chuckled when you read this heading, but a lady really said this to me and she was in tears. This lady said, "I love my husband with all my heart; I believe God gave him to me and I really want him to be happy, but I just cannot muster up any desire and I feel so bad.  I pretend to be asleep so he just won't touch me.  I'm so disappointed in myself"

Wow!  I wish I had the exact count of how many women have asked this question - probably 50,000 over the years, if not more.  So, even if this is something you don't talk about to your friends, please know you are NOT alone!

I think men would be surprised to see how sad women are over this condition.  Perhaps they think women are just being selfish. This is NOT true.  I see and hear tht there is a great deal of pain involved. Libido is not something that can easily be summoned on command and it is not easy to talk yourself into having desire.  You can totally adore your husband or wife and think they are an absolute gift from God and still not be able to "get in the mood."  What can you do?




GUESS WHAT?  In almost every case for women, IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Researchers estimate that 50% of all women aged 20-65 have experienced low libido and I know this is true... it may be more if you count temporary epidoses.  Yes, libido can be psychological, but there are many physiologic factors that can be overcome to lead you on the road to restoration.




Hormone imbalance



Anxiety / Anxiety Medications


Hot flashes (make it difficult to feel sexy)

Vaginal Dryness (which can easily be helped)

Hysterectomy / Starting on synthetic hormones

Birth Control Pill  (which lower testosterone levels)



     Well, it was inevitable. Pharmaceutical companies have now developed a "Little Pink Pill" which is supposed to be the female Viagra. In June, 2010 the FDA said "no" because the benefits of the drug did not outweigh the side effects, but now the FDA has changed its mind.

     What is the "Little Pink Pill" supposed to do? Raise serotonin levels and dopamine levels in women.  Well, guess what?  You can do that with the supplements 5-HTP and L-Tyrosine.

Read on for more natural help ~


How can I improve my Libido naturally?


5-HTP - natural alternative to the new drug

It increases serotonin levels in the brain which improves which improves desire and arousal. Dose 50-100 mg at night. Works very quickly in just a few days. LIGHT YOUR FIRE AGAIN!


Natural Progesterone


     Low libido has usually been associated with menopause, but it is very common among relatively young women.  Many women have a normal menstrual period indicating the presence of sufficient estrogen, yet still have low libido. This is because the low sex drive is not due to low estrogen, but rather to low progesterone levels or a low progesterone to estrogen ration. If the woman does not ovulate in a given month, she produces no progesterone.

     What does progesterone have to do with libido?  At ovulation, progesterone levels rise and sexual drive is heightened.  This is meant to ensure that a woman will be receptive to procreation.  Remember, progesterone is called The "Feel Good" Hormone.

     For older women with estrogen dominance, they have the uncomfortable symptoms of water retention, fibrocystic breasts, depression, and vaginal dryness.  Who would be in the mood when  feeling depressed, bloated and irritable?  Progesterone can help!

     As I talked to women who have been on progesterone crème, I learned that their low libido had been restored in about 3 months of use, sometimes less. The woman who told me "My sex drive drove off" called and said "It drove back!"  There are so many wonderful testimonials from very happy women.  The men often call, too.  One man brought his wife a year's supply of crème, saying "I'm never going to let her run out of this stuff".  He speaks for many!


Testosterone? Try DHEA instead!

     Until recently, doctors were very willing to prescribe testosterone to improve libido. This treatment has now been discredited  not only because of the masculinizing effects of testosterone, but because testosterone has been shown to contribute to liver damage if used at too high a strength or for too long a period. If you do receive a prescription for testosterone, the common dose for women is 2%.  Be careful with the synthetic drug Estratest if you are looking for bio-identical testosterone.  Estratest contains a synthetic form of testosterone called methyl testosterone.  I believe that the best testosterone is a bio-identical cream form made by a compounding pharmacy.


Great News!

     DHEA has been proven to increase testosterone levels in women, so this is a good choice (unless you have a history of cancer) As an added bonus, supplementing with DHEA increases energy and helps burn "belly" fat! Now, that's my kind of supplement!  The advised dose is between 10-25 mg daily and it can actually double  testosterone levels.  It can also reduce vaginal atrophy.  Men who take DHEA report feeling more amorous.  Some men have said that they feel an increase in libido about 30 minutes after an evening dose.


Tribulus Terrestris

     Studies have shown that tribulus taken for just 5 days increased testosterone levels. It appears to trigger the relase of LH which sends a message to cells to product ore testosterone.  In women, tribulus has also had a favorable effect on loss of interest in sex.  Results will not be immediate in women... you should allow 40-50 days for effects to be noticed.  Other positive changes:  Increase in muscle tone (without increase in exercise). How about THAT?


Avena Sativa "Wild Oats"


     This little product is considered by many researchers to be a true aphrodisiac for both women and men.  It appears to contain substances that have a similar makeup to natural testosterone and works very well in men for both sexual energy and strength of erections.
     Some women who take Avena Sativa report that libido increases "dramatically" and others will not note an increase. This is a supplement you would need to try for yourself.  Fortunately, it is not expensive. Also, an very interesting benefit is that takers have reported that Avena has reduced their cravings for sweets. (but NOT their sweetie!)




     Studies have shown that L-tyrosine(an amino acid) increases the rate at which the brain produces dopamine... just what the "Little Pink Pill" was going to do and it is NATURAL to the body.  Increased dopamine is associated with higher libido.  I love this supplement!  It also suppresses appetite and elevates mood and "feelings of joy" Usual dose is 500  mg 1-2 times daily. I take it daily and so does my husband.




     Women have reported increased sensitivity and lubrication leading to enhancement of libido.  For men, it has been called an herbal alternative to Viagra and is recommended by many physicians for erectile dysfunction.  Men who take it report improvement in erectile function. It has also been found to help increase sperm count. Recommended dose is 500-1000 mg per day.



     Libido can be helped NATURALLY.  The feelings of desire can come back.  Do not give up!  Also, be generous in spirit toward your partner.  God loves a cheerful giver!  You are also protecting your assets! That is YOUR husband (or YOUR wife).  I once had someone ask my husband's secretary if he was married.  She said "yes, he is married" and the woman asked "How married is he?"  Well, let me tell you... I want my husband to feel VERY married! Sometimes just participating can be sexy in itself.




     Remember, also, that if one person wants more sex and one wants less... the "less" person has the power.  Giving up that power can actually be a joyful feeling.  And for more joy feelings, remember L-tyrosine.  And one final tip for weight loss: Grab your Mate instead of Your Plate!


     Libido is not a simple subject, but it is important and I absolutely believe that libido can be restored. I want to help you.  I know things change and change is not bad.  Your sex drive may come back in a more mature manner; different than those overwhelming hormonal feelings of youth.  You are wiser now and your body has undergone some changes.  But we can still feel young and vibrant ! Let's  do our best to keep the intimacy alive for our partner.  Call me if you need more help.  I have more comprehensive handouts on all of the wonderful products I mentioned.  I can email, fax, or mail them to you.




Posted by: Diane Fletcherel
Thursday, April 24, 2014 @ 2:26:15 PM

Thank you Barbara...I have been following you on youtube and decided to try the female libido extract drops you recommended...I have to say they work...yes...would love to try your progesterone cream next. Also, if it is not too much to take at one time, the L-Tyrosine...Oh by the way, I am a 60 yr. old Afro-American female from NYC and I have learned a lot from you. Now I am learning how to eat better. Thank you

Posted by: Tubal Ligation Reversal
Wednesday, May 04, 2011 @ 11:20:02 PM

information well and good ... I like your way of thinking about pregnancy. Thanks for sharing

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Category: Hormone Balance  |  Permalink

Published: Thursday, July 30, 2015





Here are the properties of Bio Identical Hormones

(Natural Hormones, NOT Synthetic)


1.  They are derived from either Soybeans or Wild Yam

     I prefer the Yam base as soy can be detrimental to the thyroid.


2.  Diosgenin is the active molecule which is converted to an actual hormone. Your body recognizes as something it made itself.

So.. diosgenin becomes bio-identical progesterone.


3.  The conversion is done in a laboratory as the human body can not convert the Diosgenin into an actual hormone.


4.  Bio Identical Hormones could also be called human-identical.


5.  These hormones, though they get their start in nature, are easily converted into the exact hormones that the body makes and needs.


6.  The body recognizes bio-identical hormones and uses them just as it would if they were being produced by the ovaries, testes, or adrenal glands.


In other words... not synthetic!!  No harmful side effects. Just leave you balanced and feeling GREAT!!


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Category: Weight Loss  |  Permalink

Published: Friday, July 03, 2015

Matcha "Green Tea Powder"

for Weight Loss & Energy


Benefits of Matcha for Weight Loss


The Weight Loss Mechanism:

Matcha helps people lose weight by working as fat blocker. It blocks the ability of digestive enzymes break down fat, a step necessary for fat to enter our cells. It binds with fat cells and does not allow them to enter your body, so the fat just runs through your intestinal tract. It also contains chlorophyll which detoxifies organs to further help with fat-burning. 


EGCG is found in Matcha and increases thermogenesis or heat production through extra calorie burning and the use of stored fat as energy.

EGCG (Epigallocatechin gallate) has been shown to naturally boost metabolism as much as 40% and stop the growth of new fat cells


Studies show that consuming Matcha also increases thermogenesis (fat-burning) from 8-10% to 35-43% of your daily energy expenditure.



Another study demonstrated that exercising immediately after drinking Matcha green tea resulted in 25% more fat-burning during exercise.


Quick facts

  • Curbs sugar cravings
  • Cholesterol lowering- lowers total cholesterol and LDL cholesterol
  • Rich in fiber, chlorophyll, vitamins
  • Detoxifies effectively and naturally
  • Provides vitamin C, selenium, chromium, zinc and magnesium
  • Contains amino acid L-Theanine which produces peaceful and calm feeling
  • Lowers blood sugar
  • Stress reducing
  • Possesses antioxidant levels 6.2 times of goji berries, 7x chocolate, 17x wild blueberries & 60.5x of spinach







When you consume Matcha, you ingest 100% of the nutritional benefit of the entire leaf, not just brew as with loose leaf tea.


Yummy Matcha 'Sundae'




Combine In Bowl:

½ cup low-fat Greek yogurt 

½ - 1 tsp Matcha green tea powder


Top With:

1 Banana (sliced)

½ cup Strawberries (sliced)

Unsweetened coconut

Ground flaxseed, almonds, walnuts or pecans (chopped)


I love Matcha I mix it with Chobani Simply 100 yogurt and have it for my mid morning or afternoon snack. I encourage you to give it a try!

Love, Barbara


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Category: Weight Loss  |  Permalink

Published: Wednesday, June 24, 2015



When you are in a hurry, a fast food fix can be hard to resist.

But if you're smart about your selections, you can enjoy a guilt-free meal almost anywhere.


                      Let us help you...


Here are my best tips:


Burger-joint: Go with a single-patty hamburger or grilled-chicken sandwich, and skip the mayo or get it on the side. Load up on fresh veggies like lettuce, tomato, onion, etc. Save on carbs and calories with a "lettuce bun," known as Protein Style. Who needs a dull, white bun loaded with carbs? For sides, go with a small salad (no croutons, light dressing on the side). Personally, I order a salad and then throw my burger on top, it's really great. You have to try it. If you must have fries, get the kiddie size.  And eat them SLOWLY!  Honestly, it will taste like more!


Broth-based soup is great -- low in calories, and so filling. You can order Won Ton soup and ask for just ½ the amount of Won Tons For a main dish, go with steamed veggies and lean protein (shrimp, chicken, or tofu). Flavor it up with a little reduced-sodium/lite soy sauce.  Must eat some rice? Choose steamed brown rice and ask for ½ portion.  Throw some Chinese hot sauce on top.  Will satisfy you raise your metabolism.   Go for the fortune cookie if you wish... only 25 calories. Going to Panda Express?  Try the String Bean Chicken Breast.. only 160 calories per serving! P.F. Changs?  Beef with Broccoli or Spicy Green Beans with Chicken.


Mexican:  Go for grilled chicken or shrimp. Avoid sour cream and cheese, but feel free to load up on salsa and hot sauce. Get your guacamole on the side, and use it sparingly. I love Mexican-style salads but I ask them to hold the tortilla shell and just put it on a plate or in one of their take-out tins. Use salsa in place of dressing, my version of a Mexican salad. Want soft tacos?  Order 2 and stuff the insides of one into the other for a "big boy" stuffed taco. Mexican tortilla soup without the strips is excellent.  Whatever you order, Hold the chips... don't even take the basket! They're addictive.



Italian:  I like to ask for whatever vegetables they have and put some marinara sauce on top. I'll get the meatball sub and hold the bread! Minestrone soup is broth-based and a good choice.  Salad with light dressing on the side, maybe throw on some chicken. Pasta? Ask for wheat.  Do not eat bread and pasta at the same meal.  They actually do not do this in Italy... they know about too many carbs!


For more tips, see my book Eat Your Self Slender, Chapter 13. 

You do not have to be constantly dieting...just choosing WISELY!


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12 Very Surprising Symptoms of Hormone Imbalance

Category: Hormone Balance  |  Permalink

Published: Saturday, June 20, 2015

12 Very Surprising Symptoms of Hormone Imbalance


 1. Anxiety, feelings of dread, apprehension & doom

 2. Incontinence, especially upon sneezing & laughing

 3. Itchy, Crawly Skin

 4. Aching, Sore joints and muscles

 5. Bloat, gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, nausea & gas pain

 6. Increase in allergies

 7. Thinning hair or hair loss on head or body / increase in facial hair

 8. Changes in body odor

 9. Electrical shock sensations

10. Bleeding gums / gum problems

11. Soft or brittle fingernails

12. Tinnitus / ringing in the ears


We all know about Hot Flashes, Night Sweats & Vaginal Dryness but take a look at these rather surprising symptoms.  These symptoms can also be helped with natural Progesterone crème.  Don't accept these "Terrible Twelve" as oh, well, I'm just getting old. 
No, no, no... Its hormones!


1. Anxiety, feelings of dread, apprehension & doom
The shifting levels of the hormones estrogen and progesterone play a part in the mood swings and ups and downs that accompany PMS and pregnancy. During menopause, those same hormones fluctuate and freefall, often impacting moods and possibly amplifying any anxiety symptoms a woman already feels. 

2. Incontinence, especially upon sneezing & laughing
This can be a result of pressure or stress on the muscles and nerves that help you to hold or pass urine. Hormone changes could affect muscle strength.
Estrogen helps keep the bladder and urethra healthy and functioning properly. As you near menopause, your estrogen levels begin dropping. This lack of estrogen may mean that your pelvic muscles are no longer able to control your bladder as they did before, and that urethral tissues may have weakened. As estrogen levels continue to drop throughout menopause and after, Urinary Incontinence may become worse.



3. Itchy, Crawly Skin
Hormones regulate the moisture levels of your tissues and stimulate the production of collagen.
As the levels of hormones in your body fall, so does the amount of collagen and skin-moistening oils produced. Skin becomes dry and irritated. You can find yourself scratching at all hours of the day.  Progesterone helped me and it can help you, too.

4. Aching, sore joints and muscles
As you 
reach menopause, hormone levels drop or become imbalanced.  This can result in swollen and painful joints.
Hormones are important for regulating fluid levels in your body, and with falling levels, your body is unable to retain water efficiently. This dehydration can cause joint pain because of a buildup of uric acid which causes inflammation in your joints.  I have seen women who thought they had arthritis become completely symptom-free when they began to use progesterone crème.  Don't suffer needlessly!

5. Bloat, gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, nausea & gas pain
Again, these can be caused by fluctuation in hormones. When hormone levels become erratic during perimenopause, so does the incidence of water retention, leading to bloating.
Also, hormones influence the production of bile which aids in digestion and acts as a lubricant in the intestines. When hormone levels decrease as a result of menopause, this leads to a decrease in bile production. Stools in the small intestine can become dry, hard, and accumulate due to the lack of lubrication, leading to constipation and bloating. 
Who needs that?


6. Increase in allergies

   Because the ovaries no longer produce normal levels of hormones during menopause, the adrenal glands usually pick up the slack-this leads to adrenal fatigue. When the adrenals are depleted, it leads to increased sensitivity to various foods and environmental elements, which are often expressed as allergies.   



7. Thinning hair or hair loss on head or body / increase in facial hair
Hair loss during menopause is caused by the decrease in hormone levels. With an imbalance between estrogen & progesterone, testosterone takes over and either causes hair to grow back sparsely or thinner than before. The disproportionate levels of testosterone can also lead to growth in facial hair.


8. Changes in body odor
When your hormone levels drop, a new type of sweat is released from the apocrine glands.  It contains fatty acids that bacteria feed on, causing changes in body odor that are unique for each woman. You may like your new smell (mine was like a "cookie", not too bad), or you may not like it.  Progesterone can help rebalance you.


9. Electrical shock sensations

   Hormone fluctuation impacts the nervous system. Research suggests that it is the misfiring of neurons caused by hormone imbalance that leads to the feeling of electric shocks during menopause. These shocks are often precursors to hot flashes. Nasty!


10. Bleeding gums / gum problems
Declining hormone levels are the primary cause of gum problems in menopause. Hormones affect the gums, the salivary glands, mouth joints, and jawbones. This can lead to an increase in gingivitis, irritation, inflammation, and bleeding of the gums.



11. Soft or brittle fingernails
Fingernails are made from a hard substance called keratin, which is produced by special cells at the root of the nail bed. When hormones fluctuate during menopause, the keratin layer is weakened and the nails may become weak and easily breakable. Another issue that contributes to brittle nails is dehydration-as discussed previously in #4, when hormone levels decline, your body may not be retaining enough water for healthy nails to grow.  Now you have aching joints AND brittle nails. 


12. Tinnitus / ringing in the ears
The feeling of a ringing or buzzing sensation in the ear is a less common problem, but still one that researchers have associated with menopause. Causes include the use of HRT (hormone replacement therapy), uses of medication such as Prozac and aspirin, or even other menopausal symptoms like hot flashes or night sweats. Bio-identical progesterone and also the hormone melatonin have been shown to relieve tinnitus.


Wow!  These are 12 strange symptoms that you may be accepting because you think you are "Getting Old" No, no, no! Hormone balance to the Rescue!


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